Critizing another man's grill

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backyardsmokin

Meat Mopper
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Jun 2, 2011
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Castle Rock, CO
So here is my little rant...

My brother in law and I have the same grill (stock Char-Griller Outlaw with SFB). Last weekend he came over to my house for a BBQ to celebrate my wife's birthday. He saw my grill and how I was lighting my Kingsford Blue bag briquettes. He started in about how his grill is immaculately clean, and he cleans it down after every grill with soap and water then reseals everything with vegetable oil.  He also laid into me because I use the briquette chimney and not lighter fluid.  His next criticism was that I have some surface rust on the SFB.  I told him that it is a combo of water being sprayed over the fence when he waters his plants (he called BS to this) and that some of my smokes go into late night and I have to let it cool overnight before covering it (he said that I need to stay awake until it is cool enough to cover).  His last one was the fact that I use dry chucks laid into a smoker box next to the briquettes and let them smolder that way instead of soaking chips and placing them directly on the coals.  I told him that I tried that and I find the chunks better, to which he retorted that his way is the only way of a true smoke.

I questioned him on what has he cooked in his and what is the longest time he has cooked for.  He stated that he has only done burgers, dogs and steaks and that his longest cook is about 2 hours.  I told him that I do 18 hour briskets, 10 hr pulled porks, and 6 hr ribs all the time on this grill thus it shows more wear.    He just barked at me how I can’t keep my grill clean and organized, I am a disgusting slob when it comes to taking care of my things, and that my grill be rusted so bad by next spring that I will have to get a new grill.  The last thing he said as he was leaving the area was that if I followed his rules for keeping my grill up that I wouldn’t be getting the TBS and my food would taste better.

To all this his bbq/smoking is ok, no one really compliments him on it, but people are still complimenting me on the ribs and brisket that I did months ago.

…end rant

I believe that the etiquette calls for one man not to criticize the others grill nor to touch unless asked to do so.

Thoughts?
 
In Laws..cant live with em..cant shoot em..legally.

But I do agree. You dont go to someone's house and knock what they have, or dont have or how they maintain thier stuff. If an indivigual doesnt like how someone maintains then they always have the choice of not returning. And that is about the nicest way I can think to word it. And besides, what if you do have to buy a new one next spring, unless he is the one footing the bill, shouldnt be his worry anyway.

Dave
 
Just invite him to grill some dogs and burgers for a pot luck dinner..... then show up with some brisket and PP from your smoker, and at the end of the night when he is taking burgers and hot dogs home you can just casually mention how popular your PP and brisket seemed to be with everybody.

Nothing like a little faked modesty to get under a loudmouths skin... heh-heh. 
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A man comes to "my" house and starts telling me what I should do with anything

would be out the door. And would be lucky if he didn't leave with a bloody nose.

Just a thought....

Mike
 
Funny thing.  Yesterday my wife was over at my sister and brother in laws house and she mentioned that I was making some pastrami and roast beef( since it is approaching $10/lb in the grocery stores deli).  Now they are asking for some of it for their house.  I told my wife no way, if my brother in law doesn't like the way I make it he can use his own grill and make it himself. 
 
Funny thing.  Yesterday my wife was over at my sister and brother in laws house and she mentioned that I was making some pastrami and roast beef( since it is approaching $10/lb in the grocery stores deli).  Now they are asking for some of it for their house.  I told my wife no way, if my brother in law doesn't like the way I make it he can use his own grill and make it himself. 


If he has the same gill then he should have no problem making is own pastrami and roast beef. I know a few people that are just like your  brother in law. They always know more, their stuff is always better and they know exactly what you should be doing to take care of your stuff so it is as good as theirs. But no matter what you stuff is never as good as theirs.  It use to bug me really bad but now I just know that is how they are always going to be and I pretty much just ignore it and not let it get to me because it's not worth my time. I agree its not right for someone to come to your house and tell you how you should be running things. I would probably make a few comments like "Well if you are so worried about how my grill looks then next time when I am done with it I will call you over and you can take care of it properly your way." And tell him not to worry about your stuff unless he is coming to clean it or he is paying for it. I know what you mean. I can't stand people like that. Is he like that about everything? In my experience it's just how their personality is and you can't do much about it. But you still  don't have to like it. It makes it even harder when its a relative and an in-law to boot.
 
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You should give him some and remind him of the nasty place it was made...

hahahahhahaha

  Craig
 
just keep on eating your good smoked food and let him keep on eating dogs. no way i would give them anything but a hard time.
 
Sounds like a little inferiority complex showin up to me.  He's jealous that you have the perseverance and the knowledge to smoke for 16-18 hours at a time and he doesn't.  I would probably guess he is an immediate gratification person (I have a mother in law this way, she brings candy for the kids but can't wait till after supper to give it to them has to do it as soon as she gets her but I digress).  As stated before, if possible just ignore it.  You could always buy a newer BIGGER one when the time comes. ;)  
 
You just don't do it! If a buddy is just struggling. I say things like " What works for me" or "I like to do this" Other then that. It's his grill and his world.
 
I would have to be straight up with him and say,"If it bothers you that much...Stay Home!", then crack a cold one and enjoy a Big Bite of a PP Sammie...I'm fortunate enough to have Brother In-Laws that keep their mouth shut about my stuff because they know I cook better than their wives...JJ
 
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I had many people try to tell my how to cook untill they taste my cooking. Then they say "keep doing what your doing."
 
I actually appreciate friends who give me an honest opinion of my BBQ. It humbles you at the time, but if you take it as constructive criticism it helps you to be a better cook in the long run. I would not appreciate someone telling me how to take care of my equipment, especially if I was getting compliments on the Q it produces. 
 
If I were you I would sneak over to his house and spray down his grill with some muradic acid.... Then the next time he invites you and your wife over.... You can then comment on how much more rusty his grill is then yours... LOL.... What a peice of work this guy is... My only question would be, was there massive amounts of tequila involved? I get real mouthy on tequila... Happy Smoking, Smokin - K
 
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