First, Dixon, welcome. You'll be amazed at the things you'll find on this site, so dig deep and enjoy.
To your question, sir, my roots are very deep Texan. Texas barbecue--note barbecue, not BBQ, not Bar-B-Cue, etc.--is served dry. For those longtime and purist joints who even prepare a sauce, it is absolutely served on the side, so no, you are not extreme. Many native Texans believe that there is something being hidden when doused in sauce, whether the meat has been prepared with gas or electricity (GASP!!), meat isn't as fresh as it should be (EGADS!!), or some other nefarious deed worthy of hanging from a post oak tree. In fact, there are many places you can walk into in Central Texas and you won't see sauce anywhere: should you ask for it, you've just exposed yourself as a greenhorn outsider, have just insulted the pitmaster, and may as well have just spit in his food and face.
So no, you're not out of bounds whatsoever by going dry and letting those who opt for sauce apply it at their own discretion. Welcome aboard again, and enjoy.