Just got back from burying my father in-law... He lived out of town, my wife was traveling on business and had to divert to the hosp in another state. I caught the first flight. He went quickly which was comforting. The emotional aftermath is rough. Stirred all kinds of memories about losing my father to an accident 11 years ago. My wife was the only family her father was close with. So she was it, and I think that made it harder. "we" only had a few days to try to get the estate in some kind of order, get an attorney etc. by "we" I mean I did it all for her. she was in no shape to manage things. we live states away from all of our fam just due to circumstance and jobs. so we are expecting a lot of flying around to tie up the estate, home sale etc. etc.
The way our company handles bereavement leave was a kick in the junk too. rather heartless and s**ty. really made us want to do something else. bad experience at a bad time.
through the loss of a couple parents and a sibling we have learned these valuable steps; if you can pull them off before there is someone hospitalized or gone, they help a lot.
The way our company handles bereavement leave was a kick in the junk too. rather heartless and s**ty. really made us want to do something else. bad experience at a bad time.
through the loss of a couple parents and a sibling we have learned these valuable steps; if you can pull them off before there is someone hospitalized or gone, they help a lot.
- Make sure you and everyone in the fam has a will. we used will maker as not to pay an attorney.
- Make sure someone has or knows where the ORIGINAL notarized will is. if this cant be found its a raging PITA at a very bad time.
- to avoid probate;
- if possible, make all accounts (bank and investment) TOD (transfer on death) or joint.
- quick claim deed the home/s to add you and or other fam.
- Have a medical directive
- Power of Attorney for finances and Medical decisions.
