" Soft and not together..." May be Under Mixed. To get a good firm but tender texture, that is uniformly bound and smooth. There must be Salt in the 1%+ range and making sure the meat is Cold you Mix it until it gets Sticky. At this stage you Mix some more until a uniform Paste comes together. Things are looking good the meat and fat has emulsified...So you Mix some more! Keeping the Meat Cold keeps the Meat and Fat Emulsified. If it is getting warm, stings less when you are mixing, stop and put the meat and bowl, in the Freezer for 15 to 30 minutes, while your hand warms up, get the meat out and have at it again...JJ