Prayer Request for my Mother

[eman]

My wife and i took care of my mother in the last 1.5 yrs of her life.
she survived cancer 2 times but the third got her. I know what ya are going thru and you have my prayers and support.
Hospice was a god send for us and it's been 3 yrs since mom left us and we still keep in touch w/ 2 of her hospice nurses.
God bless and it is a joy to take care of our parents, after all they took care of us.

 

[okie joe]

Our prayers are with you and your mom...try to get some rest and help is a good thing....Lost both mom and dad in two years both needed round the clock care...it is hard even when you the end is near..

 

[shooterrick]

Thomas, I lost a father years ago and know that while you will miss her for the rest of your life, that feeling transforms from pain to a feeling of gratitude for the time you had together. The memories become a warm embrace and you know she is with you always. Our prayers to you and your mother.
Rick

 

[desertlites]

Thomas, my thoughts are with your mother and you also.

 

[nate_46]

I'm not a religious man, but I wanted you to know that I will be thinking about you and your mother. I know this is very hard, and I wish the pain for you and your mother will be minimal. Someday real soon I will have to step up to the plate and take care of my Dad, because he was diagnosed with PLS (a form of ALS).

Take care of yourself.....

Nate

 

[gnubee]

You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers. My Wife and I cared for my Mom and then Her Mom when they needed it. It isn't always easy because like your Mom both of our Moms were at times stubborn old ladies. But there are great rewards too. We take great comfort in knowing that when it really counted we were there for them.

There is also help, We found out that there were local support groups for the stay at home caregivers like yourself. We joined a group of people who like us were looking after a loved one. It was helpful to know we were not alone.

From out of our care for My Mom, My wife discovered that, that is what she wanted to do with her life, look after the elderly. She gave up being a successful chef in a fairly large restaurant to become a caregiver. Less pay but She is much happier in her new profession. Many if not all of the caregivers are in it for the love not the money.

It looks to me like your Mom must have done a pretty good job and raised the right kind of Son. One who Is now repaying her for the trials and toils of raising him. Good on you and Hang in there my friend.

Nate religious or not, the act of honoring thy Mother and Father is one of the noblest things we as humans can do. When the time comes for you to help your Dad. Give us a shout, I know I can speak for the majority on here when I say the members on SMF are always there unselfishly with whatever support they can give.

 

[cowgirl]

Sending my thoughts and prayers your way Thomas.

 

[thomasyoung]

Hello everyone,
Your words of support and love that you have shared for my Mother and myself have touched my heart. Knowing that you all have made a special moment out of your hectic day to offer to God for prayers to my Mother and myself. These are trying times for the both of us and from what I have read you all have been there before. My Mother is the last parent that I have as my Father went suddently. You just never know how much time you have with your parents and the feeling that you wished you could be there with them longer. You just never know when God calls you back home. In my prayers for my Mother and myself I shall also ask for prayers to each one of you and your families and ask that it be blessed with his holy love. I will let you all know about her status as time comes.
My thanks again,
Thomas Young

 

[mrpinkdon'ttip]

Thomas,

Our best thoughts & prayers go out to your mother, you and your family during this difficult time.

Godspeed and God bless.

 

[scarbelly]

Thomas - I know exactly what you are going thru. My Mom is 92 and just re-entered a care facility after suffering a minor stoke last weekend. She had just been sent home (1 1/2 hours from me) with a care giver after being in the same home for a month after a fall breaking several vertabre.
Dad is 88 so it is a struggle to say the least trying to help both of them.
With multiple calls daily and drives up on the weekends it too takes it's toll

You and your Mother are truley in my thoughts and prayers

 

[bbqhead]

my thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

 

[thomasyoung]

Hello everyone,
First let me say thanks for the support and the prayers that have been made for my Mother and for the prayers to me as well.

An update on my Mother, about a week ago she was put in the Hospice House to help regulate her medicines. They just had her stay in bed most of the time and now she is back home. She has a Nurse at her side here at the house 24 hours a day for two days then its back to me and then the help I get from Hospice on one of their visits they make. When she went in she was weak in the legs but still could move her legs somewhat.

Today has been an extremely hard day for her and me to see the change in her. Today she thinks her Mother died and the time is around 1975. She was not this way a week ago when she went into the Hospice House. Now it seems she is a different person. She wanted to know who changed her house. When I came to live with her I made a lot of upgrades to the house because she was letting it go. They told me that she may have what they called “Sundowners” where they get tired and get confused. She has been confused all day and I have to keep telling her of the different people she is asking for, that they have died. It’s a heart breaker to see this. I want to say “who are you and what did you do to my Mother”. I try to keep my composure and talk to her with kid gloves on, but its tearing me up inside!

Thanks again for all the good well wishes and the support.

Sincerely,
Thomas

 

[beer-b-q]

Hi Thomas,
Sorry to hear about your mother, I went through it when my father died back in 1978.

We are all here for you and are keeping you both in our prayers...

 

[ponygirl]

I Know exactly what your going thru and it's incredibly hard. I lost my Mom and Dad to cancer 11 months apart. I was the primary caregiver as well, till Hospice stepped in to help out. The pain you feel when your own parents no longer know who you are and what your doing in "their house" is immeasurable! There aren't any words that will help, or make it better..Just know that your in my thoughts and prayers. Your strength will get you thru this. God Bless You.

 

[morkdach]

i give you my best my friend as i have been there with both mom & dad

 

[travcoman45]

It's a tough road Thomas. Words sure won't fix it. Best advice is to talk with friends an let some a that pain out. Take short breaks an do the things that interest ya, even if fer only short lengths a time. You can't keep it all bottled up, ain't good fer ya.

Come here if it gives ya a break.

Will keep thinkin of ya.