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How to be a good member of the family.

smokeymose

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Dan, I'm gonna jump in here and share my .02 and may well get some change back. From my perspective I have found everything I've read from you to be enjoyable, polite, and respectful. Like you, I don't typically get rude intentionally but this whole PC approach just doesn't fit into my lexicon. Being old school and raised in a military family turned construction, I have a tendency to tell it like it is and check the PC approach at the door. Although not intended to be rude or disrespectful, it is construed that way sometimes by people who require a more delicate approach. You keep posting sir, I'll keep reading, and we'll keep having fun!!

Now where's my change? :emoji_wink:
Robert
Thank you. Honesty gets you in trouble most of the time. My "like" is the only change in my pocket right now ...
 

olecrosseyes

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Wholey Carp!
I am truly surprised that this is really a topic on one of the first forums that I ever watched. I spent a year here before I logged in with a "Breaker 1-9, This is Ole~Crosseyes and I got a question." "Can you give me a clue what the "Ell" went wrong"? I got more than enough possible answers!

I've been around here for sometime, ok doing a lot of lurking, but I'm now semi retired and trying to be a little more vocal. Ha, ha I know "Denny O shut up and sit down!" Lol.

I'm no newbie here by any means, BUT I'm surprised that SMF has had its members get caught up into what I reading about that requires this rhetoric!! Really? Come on, let's get back to sharing and learning from one and another. If you seem to be disgruntled, well then schuh for now, come back later after you vented on fb or somewhere else. Better yet, Think, pause listen to yourself and then think once again to what you say.

Sorry to Jeff and staff for exposing my thoughts to one of THE best sights that Majorly helped me when I was in a trial and error for years to SMOKE MEATS!! My hats off ta ya!

I sincerely thank this forum,
Denny Orfield
Des Moines, IA

Mr. Moderator, I wish to yield the balance of my time to the next speaker.
 
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pineywoods

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We for the most part have a great community here but with what's going on lots of people are stressed and lots of people are on edge and that's understandable but remember we are all going through this together. When you think you have it bad just think others have it just as bad or worse. Also understand that taking out your frustrations on someone else isn't the right thing to do and you wouldn't want it done to you. You are not required to post in any thread so if your comment is going to be demeaning or an attack on another member don't post at all. As others have said my momma taught me if you have nothing good to say don't say anything.
Having differing opinions is fine and we have no problem with people discussing things they disagree about as long as it's civil and doesn't get nasty.
SMF has never allowed attacks on other members or demeaning other members and we won't tolerate it now either.
 

tx smoker

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We for the most part have a great community here but with what's going on lots of people are stressed and lots of people are on edge and that's understandable but remember we are all going through this together.
You are absolutely correct. Here is my slightly expanded take on it. This is only MY take and in no way reflective of other people's opinions. I feel that SMF is my very large extended family. I've made a lot of good friends here and developed some great online relationships. As a family, we endure together, help each other, and share our experiences...both the trials and tribulations as well as the successes. Heck, right now scoring a 4-pack of toilet paper is as successful as a beautiful prime rib cook :emoji_laughing: Sure, the basis of the forum is dedicated to cooking, primarily smoking meats, but there are a lot of other things going on in the lives of my family members here. I for one enjoy hearing about them, people sharing input, and looking to see the positive side of things. I've never been a negative person by nature and a few recent threads I did find to be negative. The staff however brought those to a quick closure. Things have taken a much more positive turn and I'm enjoying what I'm reading now. Barring any direct violations of the SMF mantra, I'd kinda like to continue seeing people share how they are dealing with this, what they are doing to help others, what they are thankful for...etc. It brings things into a perspective of a reality that we are all forced to deal with and being done in a positive way.

I'm done for now :emoji_wink:
Robert
 

sandyut

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This is a great place. Lets keep it that way. Thank you for posting this. Kinda glad I didnt see the threads that made it necessary.

Now more than ever, we need each other.
 

GaryHibbert

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I feel silly having to even post this but as of late several members dont know how to be kind humans to each other and to be honest are acting like asses.

So to be short and sweet there will be no warnings going forward no matter whom you are new or old. You will be escorted from the site and be promoted to NON-MEMBER.

Not sure how much more clear I can be.

We are a family FRIENDLY forum. If you dont like what someone is saying flag it if its offensive or heres an idea MOVE ON.

Sorry to be so blunt but this will stop.

Thanks.

Management.
Brian, I wanted to read all the replies in your post before I responded.
So here's my response--WELL SAID!!!!!
Believe me, there's no reason for you to feel bad about this post. Bluntness is sometimes required. to get a point across. Truth be told, I'm a big fan of "Blunt". A good friend of mine once told me I was about as subtle as a claw hammer in the face. But...I'm never unintentionally rude to anyone. If I'm rude, it's done in private and face to face--not hiding behind a computer monitor.
In my years on this forum, I've found it to be a gathering of friendly, helpful people, always more than ready to help anyone with a problem. Sure, there are lots of My First Pork Butt posts--we've all posted one of those. If you're not interested, don't read it. Just don't bitch about it. That's why I'm still a member. I have no use for other forums that are filled with snide, cruel remarks and insults.
Big (much as I hate the word) LIKE from me.
Gary
You said what needed to be said. Hair on ya.
Gary
 

chef jimmyj

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In days past I locked horns with some people. I got ugly and I regret that. I've also learned from others and practice...If you disagree with another, back your point of view with documentation from a Valid Reputable Source. " That's what my Mom did and nobody died! " Is not a valid source. Neither is an article from some Hippie, New Age, Cult. Valid Sources are University, Government or Professional Organizations. If the Debate is going to continue...Brian has taught me that in these situations, " It's better to hit the Delete Button than the Reply Button. Just take the High Road and let it go..." Good advice.
Remember, people may have something going on in their lives making them upset and argumentative that has NOTHING to do with you or the current topic...JJ
 

HalfSmoked

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I too missed the post that caused this to come about and can say I'm glad I did. New people come here for help and that's what I did when I came on board. Just remember how proud you were when you did your first brisket or ribs to the best you had ever done and were so proud of your self. You just couldn't wait to post it and receive the great comments from supporting fellow members on the form. That's what the brother hood on this forum is all about supporting and helping one another. Enough said before I get carried away for I too have found many friends on here.

Warren
 

noboundaries

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We love to smoke, cook, fry, bake, braise, SV, grill, boil, roast, rotisserie, broil, sauté, grind, stuff, marinate, pound, cure, jaccard, age, prep, and season our food. There's no better place to share our love than SMF. That's always been the focus here.

We are all experiencing a unique time in our lives than is rubbed with uncertainty and sprayed with a little fear. I welcome the opportunity to explain melting collagen in butts and briskets, probing not temping for tenderness, or high temps to get crispy skin on poultry. Don't even get me started on charcoal or roasting coffee. Sure, I've said it all umpteen times, but what a nice distraction as I hibernate from everything else going on.

Imagine yourself as a teacher in his or her 10th year of teaching the same grade or subject. The new student benefits because they are hearing it for the first time. And no matter what is going on in their lives, the good teacher always makes it fun and fresh. Thank you for remembering to focus on what we love here at SMF and supporting each other during these times.

Ray
 
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noboundaries

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I am going to take a chance here...

What are your thoughts on charcoal and roasting coffee?

(getting popcorn)...
Enjoying my afternoon cup of freshly roasted Rwanda A1 grade, wet-processed, patio dried, Full City+ coffee. Cinnamon-spice, robust-chocolate perfection.

Charcoal...good.
 

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