I used to hate grits. I tried them so many different ways as a breakfast dish, and I never could get used to them. Then, I had spicy cheese grits at a cajun restaurant, and I was a changed man!
I can't make mine nearly as good as theirs, but here's what I do:
I use regular grits. ("No self-respecting southerner uses instant grits." My Cousin Vinny)
1 part dry grits to 4 parts liquid. (I add chicken bouillon to my water.)
Heat water to boiling.
Stir in grits.
Reduce heat to low and cover.
Stir every 3 minutes until thickened. About 20 minutes. (It should be about as thick as oatmeal.)
That's my base. From there you can season however you want. About halfway through, I usually add black pepper, smoked paprika and some butter. Sometimes, I'll add Old Bay Seasoning. My last batch I added Texas Pete Sriracha, and it was amazing.
Then, add cheese to taste. I usually use smoked cheddar.
Good luck!