I hear ya, brother. First butts I did last year I told my wife a couple of times "I'm gonna have to get up early to get it started", without much response. When the alarm went off at 3:00 am the conversation was:
Wife: "It's 3:00, what's wrong?"
Me: "Nothing's wrong, I told you I would have to get up early"
W: "This isn't early, it's the middle of the night."
M: "You want it for dinner, don't you"
W: "You're nuts. Someone's going to call the cops when they see you back there with that flashlight strapped to your head"
[Sigh...] They just don't get it. That's my favorite part of the whole process.