I'm not sure how many women there are on here. I bought my husband an upright smoker a few years ago but I ended up using it. I scrapped that last year and I just bought a Camp Chef pellet smoker. It's like night and day. I love it!
I didn't like my upright smoker (variable temps, messy, only small meats could be used, etc.) so I didn't use it much and never remembered the nuances of each type of meat. I'm looking forward to using this pellet smoker MUCH more (twice already since I got it 2 weeks ago) and look forward to chatting with you all as time goes on.
FTR I have always used my own rubs and mops. Sometimes I just use salt, pepper, paprika, and garlic and it comes out fantastic. More is not always better!