geb, hello. Good to know you...
Your Butt problem is easy , I do a lot of them since they are cheaper than Beef . I do a simpler method than some and get great results .
I like the taste of Hickory and use that with Maple to tone it down . This works with any wood , Maple is a milder sweeter wood and found everywhere here in the States . It complements other wood and gives a great flavor even by itself ( especially
My method , simply clean the meat (quick rinse) rub with Spices and place in a heated Smoker and leave it be until my probe says 200*F , remove , rest , and pull .
The Bone usually falls out , see it on the right?
As for the 'stall' , you'll need to learn 'patience' , then you'll begin your road to BBQ Zen... may Karma help and guide you...