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Sorry for your loss Charles!! Sorry for your friends families loss also! I hope he left thinking one of the last people he saw was a good Buddy. Your telling made me choke up!!

Aloha,

Sean
 
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Charles I'm sorry for your loss and prayers go out to you and his family. I'm glad you and him got to spend a lot of time together doing something you both enjoyed. Real friends are hard to come by and it really hurts when you lose one. I also agree if you care for someone make sure they always know that tell them often.
 
I'm so sorry for the loss of your friend Charles, and I apologize for asking you to relive it thru words. It's never easy losing a friend or family member, but at least you were with him at the end.

Chris
 
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I have a friend and we fish together every Friday, been doing that for years and this past Friday was the same. We got out on the water at daylight and started heading towards the place we had decided to start. Saturday was a tournament and we were scouting for fish we thought might win.

Get to the place and we're putting out our rods, he's fishing the port side and I'm on the starboard. We're trolling and the setup is 6 rods on each side. I get all mine out while he's on the phone and then he gets 3 rods out. I'm running the boat and not really paying attention to what he's doing and I look around. He's sitting down holding his chest and complaining about chest pain. Doesn't take me long to realize this is serious and I ask him do we need to go, he says yes. Now I know it's serious.

I wind up all the rods as fast as I can and point the boat towards the dock which is about 2 miles away. Call 911, which unfortunately is not a good experience, and tell them where I am and where I'm headed and I need help, I have a man on board with chest pains. I can tell they're reading from a script, but I won't go into all that, I just need help at the dock.

We get disconnected and I immediately call back and get someone different who seems to know more about what's going on, where I am, and where I'm headed and says help is on the way. I'm trying to talk to them on the phone and trying to make sure my friend is still conscious.

Get to the dock and the fire dept. gets there first, then finally the ambulance. My friend is still responsive and answering questions, but says his chest is really hurting and feels like someone is standing on him. They get him off the boat and into the ambulance while I'm on the phone with his wife. I stuck my head in the side door and jokingly told him not to give them a hard time and listen to what they tell him. He gave me a chuckle and a wave.

At the hospital, they say they don't think he had a heart attack and are running some tests. Couple hours later, they say he has a tear in his aorta and taking him to surgery immediately. He didn't make it through the surgery.

This has left a big hole in my heart and my life, sorry for the vague post, but it is hard and I wanted to emphasize to always tell the ones you care for, that you do...
That is a tough place thing to witness. So sorry for you and his family. Prayers for all. Love you family and friends.
 
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I have a friend and we fish together every Friday, been doing that for years and this past Friday was the same. We got out on the water at daylight and started heading towards the place we had decided to start. Saturday was a tournament and we were scouting for fish we thought might win.

Get to the place and we're putting out our rods, he's fishing the port side and I'm on the starboard. We're trolling and the setup is 6 rods on each side. I get all mine out while he's on the phone and then he gets 3 rods out. I'm running the boat and not really paying attention to what he's doing and I look around. He's sitting down holding his chest and complaining about chest pain. Doesn't take me long to realize this is serious and I ask him do we need to go, he says yes. Now I know it's serious.

I wind up all the rods as fast as I can and point the boat towards the dock which is about 2 miles away. Call 911, which unfortunately is not a good experience, and tell them where I am and where I'm headed and I need help, I have a man on board with chest pains. I can tell they're reading from a script, but I won't go into all that, I just need help at the dock.

We get disconnected and I immediately call back and get someone different who seems to know more about what's going on, where I am, and where I'm headed and says help is on the way. I'm trying to talk to them on the phone and trying to make sure my friend is still conscious.

Get to the dock and the fire dept. gets there first, then finally the ambulance. My friend is still responsive and answering questions, but says his chest is really hurting and feels like someone is standing on him. They get him off the boat and into the ambulance while I'm on the phone with his wife. I stuck my head in the side door and jokingly told him not to give them a hard time and listen to what they tell him. He gave me a chuckle and a wave.

At the hospital, they say they don't think he had a heart attack and are running some tests. Couple hours later, they say he has a tear in his aorta and taking him to surgery immediately. He didn't make it through the surgery.

This has left a big hole in my heart and my life, sorry for the vague post, but it is hard and I wanted to emphasize to always tell the ones you care for, that you do...
It left me with a tear in my eye as well.

Thank you for sharing the story. The whole story really makes a difference. Very sorry for the loss of your friend and his wife's/family's loss.
 
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Charles I read your post about your friend and your loss. I am very sorry to hear this and our heart goes out to your friends family and also to you . Hard to lose a friend or family member.

It is just a dark and empty feeling. Time sort of heals it , but always on our minds.

David and Mona
 
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Several years ago, one of my hunting buddies whom I'd grown up next door to, and who was in his 30's at the time, went out hunting with his step father. They were bedded down in his van and using a portable gas heater for warmth. Although he had turned it all the way off when they went to sleep, the valve malfunctioned and continued to seep. The next morning, another one of my hunting buddies who was in a another camper, went to wake them and both had died of asphyxiation during the night. Just like that, his mother lost both her husband and a son, and he had a young wife and a 2 year old son of his own.
I heard she got a large settlement from the company (with an NDA, of course), but I know it could never replace him. He was a genuine force of nature.
 
I guess I've been "lucky". Not to say I've been with those of my immediate family when they died, but I was home when it happened. Both of my parents and two of my brothers, so I know what you mean.

I wasn't raised with hugs and "I love you's", but we all knew it didn't need to be said. I'm still not a hugger or tell everyone that I love them, except for my wife. And dog. But I know those who I love know that I love them.

So sorry to hear about your friend. I'm sure he knew you loved him without having to say it.
 
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I wasn't raised with hugs and "I love you's", but we all knew it didn't need to be said. I'm still not a hugger or tell everyone that I love them, except for my wife. And dog. But I know those who I love know that I love them.
Sounds like we were raised the same. It's a difficult thing to get around.
 
Thank you all for the prayers and condolences, they really mean a lot.

He did not want a funeral and wanted to be cremated, so today was a celebration of life for my friend. An opportunity for the many, many people he had touched in his life to come together and share stories and memories.

Being the one who was with him that day, many in his family wanted to talk and hear from me the events of last Friday. I talked to his daughter, their only child, for a long time.

Today at times, it was very sad, other times, happy. But for all, it was an outlet to express what he meant to them, to us all...
 
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